money

How do people love money over everything.
Money can buy you happiness for someone in different term - you are happy, you can buy a car that drive you around, and you need money to buy a car.

Money can ruin everything: family, marriage and friendship.
I saw many families who are fighting over someone's money or wealth.  It's NOT belong to them, it's given for free and there is still fighting and argument within families member.  There is no more LOVE and UNDERSTANDING when it comes to wealth.

There are only three problems within families and people life:
1. Family
2. Health
3. Financial.

If your family is wealthy, there will be either health or family issues. There is always something. 

Money is a very sensitive issue right now, since it can make us to become a different person.
My family is not wealthy, and they are not happy because they always short of money.  Luckily, they are healthy so No need to spend money on the doctor.  There is little family issue, but manageable.

How do you handle a situation when your husband is very secretive when it comes to money.  He won't tell you how much his salary, his bonus or even his 401K.  And his wife might NOT even his beneficiary, it's his family,  how does the wife feel?
In addition, he wants the wife to be very independent and capable.

Lately, this money issue is becoming a big topic, and I try to see the big pictures with positive view.  But someone keeps pouring negative view to me. . .
I need to be positive to handle this things, things are falling apart and I need to dive alone,  drink the water and rescue myself.
The more I try to understand and see the whole pictures, things are getting complicated and I can't figure things out, I keep asking myself the same question like repetitive dreams.

By the way. . . I've been having these same dreams, different setting, but same meaning that connects to my question:
1. old people who are very unpleasant look.
2. beautiful flower - monster to be
3. cute creature - monster to be

2nd Typhoon

Another typhoon is coming and government declare no school and no work today, Aug 2, 2012

What's another boring and lonely day to spend in this room, end up writing a blog and doing some research for my own things. .
Supposed to study and catching up what are left behind but I have no motivation and low concentration at this moment, with all the noise from outside, like ghost tries to go into the holes.

What's unlucky day. 
The hot water dispenser at the dorm is broken, and because of typhoon, no one can come to fix it.  Finally, 7 eleven or convenient store was the only option. 
flooding and big rain like a pouring water constantly.  I walked and the flood was higher than my ankle.  7eleven was packed with people and almost no food to buy, no sandwiches, no sushi and no noodle, all left are salad - who want to eat salad in these cold weather?
It's time for 7eleven Oden, which is surprisingly good.

Joe called, it's nice of him to call and check on me regular basis lately.  We did not talk as such since we try to avoid argument and conflict, writing email and exchange ideas are better. 

We found out, there are many things that we are the same, but we have different approach of doing things. 
I like to do it quietly and once I got the whole pictures then I will share. . . I feel I don't want to waste people times with my ideas what are not certain.
He, on the other hand, like to discuss things in advance and try to figure things out by talking to people to get idea before he moves forward. 

We might have the same back ground of families in financial wise, the up and down of our parents; however, there are also big differences in the families view and financial burden.  How are each of our parents were in the peak and had the best of all and never raise again.

He wants each of us to be independent; however, people might view that he is the man, and he should have supported his family without any reasons of being independent and who make more.

My friend, Landy

I am slowly getting back to my schedule, sleep around 11 or 12 pm and wake up around 6 or 7 am on weekdays.

Finally, I bring up the topic to Landy on YM since she was complaining and hurt by Joe’s rejection mostly. She was very shocked and dropped her works just to get the idea:

1.       She is annoyed by Joe’s behavior and view

2.       Does he feel I take advantage of his wealth? Sorry to say, I am NOT a freeloader and I’ve been on my own since day 1 we got married.

3.       Why post nuptial after 5 years of marriage

4.       It’s husband’s responsibilities responsibility to ensure the wife is in good condition

5.       I don’t do anything wrong that ruin his wealth, I brought extra $$$ to his mom

6.       Is he making sense or is he putting you in risk?

7.       He has to support me

8.       Am I a materialistic girl?

9.       If he has no trust, why you want to stay on this marriage?

10.   Lawyer works for one who pays her/ him, don’t ever agree with his lawyer

11.   One lawyer can’t represent both parties.

12.   I think this post nuptial is His tactic, so you sign it and then he wants divorce – no responsibility

13.   I want you to be protected

14.   I think he has done his research, so you need to be careful, it can be a trapped

15.   Is there reason why he does NOT trust me after five years of marriage? I did not make him more poor; instead I made him to have more extra money.

16.    Another trust issue

17.   What have I done to deserve these treatments?

18.   Behavior is separate from assets

19.   If he wants me to change for better, money should not be on the discussion

20.   There is a line between trying to make him happy vs putting myself in risk for nothing.

I tried to think positively with clear mind to understand the whole situation; however, things are going to different direction with her thought. 

I really appreciate it, she try to protect me, what is best for me. . .

“she is annoyed by Joe on the way he handles these problems and his thought"